Setting Boundaries with Your Kids
Don’t hesitate to set limits with your kids, but set them with empathy.
Of course, you need to enforce your rules, but you can also acknowledge his or her perspective. When kids feel understood, they’re more able to accept your limits. Try wording your boundaries like this:
“You’re very, very mad and hurt, but we don’t bite. Let’s use your words to tell your brother how you feel.”
“You wish you could play longer, but it’s bedtime. I know that makes you sad.”
“You don’t want Mommy to say No, but the answer is No. We don’t say ‘Shut Up’ to each other, but it’s ok to be sad and mad.”
“You are scared, but we always tell the truth to each other.”